10 SIGNS OF AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP / HOW TO AVOID UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS / SIGNS OF UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
Nobody plans from the onset to be in unhealthy relationships. Even when most people are in unhealthy relationships, something, somewhere convinces them that the relationship is perfect, and could be better. (This makes them want to stay).
Staying back after seeing these signs of an unhealthy relationship as written in this article could worsen your situation. Other times a firm decision to leave is implemented when the worm has eating so deep into the flesh.
Most times, things aren’t really what they seem to be. A perfect relationship could finally end up being a very sore marriage, anybody could fall prey of this as long as you don’t look out for the signs of unhealthy relationship.
The funny part about unhealthy relationships are, lots of them have got really mind blowing, awesome and memorable moments. Something you could hold unto and not “throw in the towel”.
“Love isn’t just enough”. Regardless of how much time and resources you have spent, regardless of the feelings of love you have/had presumably, even the beautiful moments you have never had in your life, an unhealthy relationship would someday become violent, and even if it doesn’t, dealing with the emotions mentally could be endangering to health.
We all need to love and be loved adequately, no one is worth the whole drama. The church would say, “Once you say I DO, it’s for better or for worse, till death do you path”, well in this generation it doesn’t really work that way.
If you make a mistake, don’t live with it. Seek help, and practicable means of regaining back your life. In modern times there are so many ways to get rid of unhealthy relationships (Marriage).
Even though the parties involved might seem unhappy, lonely, frightened, and scared. It’s for a while, better than being dead while alive. Check out these signs of an unhealthy relationship that could sneak pass your guard. Watch out for them.
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS: 10 MAJOR SIGNS OF AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD NOT IGNORE
1. No Longer Yourself
Although relationships make people change and become better, the change shouldn’t be forceful, mandatory and extreme. Its not right when your partner is always trying to mold you to become a different person, not molding you to help you get better, but trying to dictate and manipulate your actions to suit just him/ her.
This aspect could come in different shades, it could come in disguise of disobedience, for instance; your partner wants you to tag along and purposely disobeys you just to make you come to agreeable terms. After which, calls for peace talk bearing gifts. Being manipulated in a relationship is one of the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
2. The Quarantine Service
Like people infected with a dreadful disease, most people restrict their partners from keeping in touch with friends, buddies and even families. However, giving more time to your friends and families this could trigger a ban.
Try to spend time with your partner. Sometimes all they need is just your attention. Do not give them the opportunity of making you choose between him/her and the other party.
3. Signs of Unhealthy Relationship – Public Criticism
Does your partner always criticize you in public, does he/she make jest of you before their friends. That’s a red flag. Some things are meant not to be done or said especially in public. Your partner should be an extension of whom you are. Protect your partner. Protect yourself.
This word reminds me of the WWE Unforgiven matches; The Undertaker VS MANKIND hahahaha. Come to think of this, for one to be forgiven of their “trespasses” there should be a heartfelt/ sincere apology and absolute repentance (that must be achieved consciously by avoiding the repetition of your wrong deeds).
If your partner keeps offending and keeps apologizing, you need help. However, if a sincere and repentant heart
comes to your feet begging for mercy and yet receives rejection. YOU NEED MORE HELP. Being unable to forgive is one the signs of unhealthy relationship you should not ignore.
5. Extreme Feelings
Your partner is always in a rush, he/she is over-loving and over doing things, always checking up on you, always wanting to see you. Even acts as your body guard, always feels you will slip away the next minute. Stalks you?
Wait a minute, could it be that you are flirty, cheating or somewhat loose that makes him/her check up on you all the time. Now you see, from both angles, you guys are heading for a fall. But, if truly, you aren’t giving bad signals and still receive this treatment, just know you have figured out one of the signs of an unhealthy relationship in your affair.
Some people feel being jealous means you really care for you partner, and you love them. Well, jealousy could lead to violence especially when you your partner has temper issues. At this time, hanging out with your friends could be dangerous. A possessive partner is a dangerous partner.
This occurs mostly with couples living together, when your partner sabotages your affairs it could be awful. Sabotages could come in forms like: Deflating your tire and makes you go to work late or even miss work.
Finding a way of making you miss school against your wish (maybe by soaking your clothes in the bath tub), talking behind your back about you, and even threatening to share your secrets with people and on social media. COME ON!
8. Put the Blame on You
Does your partner find a way of blaming you for every wrong thing that happens in your relationship? Does he or she always restrain themselves from taking responsibilities?
Do they threaten to hurt themselves if you don’t do their wish (making you to take the blame for their actions)? These are no signs of love, rather they are typical signs of an unhealthy relationship.
9. Two Faced Sword
“Lie” is one thing I detest so much in a relationship. If someone is lying to keep you in a relationship then that relationship is so unhealthy for you. If your partner is living a lie (being another person while with you, and being another person when you aren’t around) you need to think and act fast before its too late.
10. Lack of Communication
Nothing bonds a relationship more than an effective communication. If you are in a relationship were you could sit down and say to each other, “look, this is where we got it all wrong, and this is how we are going to fix it”, then you are in paradise.
With effective communication, partners understand each other better, fears are allayed, likewise insecurities. Lack of communication is one of the signs of an unhealthy relationship you should never ignore.
If your partner is not your best friend, I wonder what you are doing with him or her. If you are in a relationship and still decide to practically keep another best fried, you need to grow up. High school days are over.
Understanding people’s behaviors is critical to figuring out on time if you are in an unhealthy relationship. These signs of an unhealthy relationship gradually accumulate, and effects your daily performance. Most times one could snap and become very violent. These signs of unhealthy relationships could link up in chains.
The truth is, YOU DESERVE THE BEST. Always trust your instincts. If you really feel you could still work it out with your partner, then both parties would need loooooots of sincere efforts to make to work. Do not forget, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Only you could decide how yours would turn out.
Otherwise, get help, get advice from people immediately you see the signs of unhealthy relationship. Better still, leave before it becomes too late.
“You don’t let go of an unhealthy relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you finally start caring about you.”
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